Xavier University
ACHA M3 • ICHC
Date: May 3, 2025
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My name is Kathy Sage..I am the psycho parent referenced in a recent post. My daughter was the Grad Student. That post was written by the coaches boyfriend. I'm not hiding behind anonymity. Let's tell the real story. 1 student, my daughters girlfriend was cut without warning. The referenced video was of her in 8th grade saying something regrettable. The video has been shopped to every coach this girl has contacted and every boss out there. It is taken without context and it was never discussed before cutting her. That is a horrible leader who would take things from a malicious tipster without asking for an explanation from the accused. It was never a part of Decker cutting that teammate. Plus, if she were not D1 worthy, then the coach shouldn't have recruited her...but that is Decker's MO...telling everyone that they are not D1 worthy. SHE, DECKER...is the one who is not D1 worthy! Decker wanted my daughter's attention solely for herself. She had an assistant coach tell my daughter that if the other player got in the way, the coaching staff would take care of it. My daughter had no idea what they meant. Then her girlfriend was cut 3 months later. Then Decker told my daughter casually around that time, that she could see herself in a relationship with a woman, making my daughter extremely uncomfortable. My daughter definitely pulled away a bit and became closer to the team. Decker thanked my daughter for leading the team to complete the running test that fall, that sent one girl to the hospital and that many others failed to complete. My daughter played for that coach with mono that year and the coach was pissed she had to sit out and refused to start her after she was medically cleared. My daughter won a Big East award and had to beg for the award to be given to her and given a lecture by the coaches boyfriend about how she needed to be a better teammate. We went to the banquet that day and the coach and boyfriend avoided me . The next day she was cut from the team. My exit letter to Decker's actions was honest and scathing and she laminated and paraded it around the field. She didn't like me reacting to her so her husband calls me a psycho...I'm good with that. The coaches husband tried to buy drugs from my daughter at one point that semester, in text which was the beginning of his firing from Xavier. Decker told everyone I threatened her and had me removed from 2 games by campus police. Then she had my daughter removed for visiting the campus when she saw her. My daughter owns a house nearby so she has business in Cincy. My daughter bought that house at 23...but Decker said she had no leadership skills. I never threatened Decker...I just knew if I had gone and confronted her face to face she would have had me arrested. She kind of proved my point...attending a game was a lot less volatile...but I guess I read Decker correctly. I was team mother, friend, I compiled food-trains during Matts first bout with cancer...I sent her care packages, trinkets, texts of support that I thought she was doing a great job even though she was not on par. We went out to lunch, and she even told me it was the first time she went to lunch with a parent. We were pals. I used her realtor, I gave her advice about the real estate, and about living in an RV on acreage which she showed interest in doing. Ya know, things that you do when you like each other. She has never been an effective coach...but she had always tried. I was never in a place to be her critic so I just supported her. The only person who would know about the video they mention in the previous post was Decker and Matt because it would be completely unscrupulous to share something like that with parents...especially without speaking with the girl that was cut...about it...EVER. And the only person who could ever think I was psycho..is the person who didn't like hearing the truth in private letter form. When she was fired...it was like a firestorm on my texts to tell me the wicked witch was dead...those parents didn't think I was psycho! I reacted to the way she treated my daughter and me and all of her victims...if she didn't like that, she should have done better! Much better! I'm out!