Xavier University
ACHA M3 • ICHC
Date: May 8, 2025
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Like many parents and athletes, we were initially impressed by what Meg Decker presented during the recruiting process. She spoke with confidence and vision, and we wanted to believe in the potential of a growing program. However, shortly after our daughter began her first year, we started hearing troubling accounts that raised serious concerns. Our daughter described a coaching environment marked by disorganization, minimal communication, and an unusual coaching style that often felt more like psychological manipulation than mentorship. At first, we gave the benefit of the doubt—hoping things would improve with time—but the issues only compounded. Fundamental skills like clearing, catching, and ball control were persistent challenges for the team. Despite the struggles, there was no structured review of game footage—Coach Decker openly stated she didn’t believe in film review. Players who wanted to improve had to take the initiative to watch games on their own through streaming platforms. Several assistant coaches who seemed genuinely invested in the team’s success left, citing an unworkable coaching environment. In her second year, Coach Decker brought on her significant other, who had no prior lacrosse coaching experience. His unclear role and overly casual demeanor blurred professional boundaries, creating further discomfort. Eventually, he was barred from being near the team—though the reasons were never made public, it was clearly not a positive development. By the end of the 2024 season, nearly half the team had transferred or entered the portal—one of the highest turnover rates in Division I women’s lacrosse. While the university appeared to take notice, Coach Decker remained in place. During the 2025 season, her disengagement became even more apparent. She missed two games entirely, with no explanation—an unacceptable level of professionalism at the D1 level. The university has since parted ways with Coach Decker. In our view, this was a necessary step. While she may have been a capable player, coaching—especially at the collegiate level—requires leadership, communication, and the ability to foster growth and resilience in young athletes. Unfortunately, many players under her leadership felt the opposite: that their love for the game was diminished. With her departure, there is a renewed sense of hope and energy among the team. We’re optimistic that the program can now move forward in a healthier, more supportive direction.